Wednesday, May 27, 2009

How to Impress Your Date

  1. Remember who you are, and remember who you are trying to impress. Do not try to be someone else, because your fraudulence will shine through.
  2. Hold his/her attention with funny anecdotes and stories, but no corny jokes. It may lead to an awkward moment. Laughing often breaks the ice, and everyone loves someone with a sense of humor. Most people love funny stories, but nothing too dirty, especially on a first date.
  3. Dress and look sophisticated. Unless you are taking her to the beach, you probably should not be wearing flip-flops or shorts on a first date. No matter what you do for a living, let her know that you enjoy what you do and take pride in it. Don't be too boastful - people usually find that to be rude and offensive.
  4. Do not complain about everything. Family, friends, work, boss, car, weather, taxes, and gasoline prices should stay out of the conversation. Instead, try to smile and let her know that you are a fun person - not someone boring who she has to talk to.
  5. Buy her flowers. Girls love to receive them. If you want to get her something small instead, buy a candle or a picture frame (not with your picture in it). You want her to know that you were thinking about them while you were apart and that you remember what she likes. Just don't go overboard.
  6. Be courteous. Hold the door and help her with her coat; pull out chairs, do not interrupt her, do not talk on the cellphone on a date, and do not look at other people in the room.
  7. Ask her about herself. Try not to be too nosy - don't ask any personal questions. Make her feel good about her career, hobbies, interests, and opinions. Listen attentively as well. People generally hate it when they are asked the same question twice because it tells them that you were not listening the first time. Do not pry into personal matters, and do not tell about private matters in your life.
  8. Compliment her. Tell her she looks lovely, smells good, is intelligent, has a beautiful house - anything that will make her smile. It counts.
  9. Talk about your interests and be relatively open with them. Talk about her interests as well, and try to focus on mutual interests, since both of you will be able to contribute. Who knows? She may like the things you like and know a lot more about them than you thought she would. What about history, cars, music, movies? Your date may very well share some of your interests, and it could make for a great conversation and allow you both to find some common ground.
  • If you have one of those silent moments, just drop in a quote from a famous person to make her laugh or ask her what she thinks about it. Memorize one or two key quotes.
  • If you really want to impress your date, try not to take her to a bar on a first date. They might not feel 100% comfortable with it and may not hold alcohol very well. You may have the same problem. Try a coffee shop; it affords you both a chance to talk and to get to know each other a little better. Dinner could be nice but is probably better for a second or third date. Movies are nice, too but allow for little conversation time. Save the movie for a second or third date as well; that way, during the movie, you can let them lean against you, or move closer to you, without feeling uncomfortable about it.
  • For a first kiss, do not try to swallow their face. Leave a lasting positive impression by some eye contact and perhaps a little bit of tasteful and gentle touching.
  • Do not speed when driving with your date. They will not be impressed. People are more comfortable when they are not expecting to fly through your windshield.
  • Do not reach for very sexual parts of your date's body immediately. If you want to make some relatively early physical contact, reach for her hand, hair, perhaps the neck but within reason, or back.
  • Try to adjust the temperature in your car or house to accommodate your date. Do not suffer but do not be inconsiderate either. It is best for your date to be comfortable when she is in your environment.
  • If your date has any pets, you don't have to pick them up or play with them right away, but don't reject the animal immediately. However, be honest with your date if you are allergic. Better safe than sorry.
  • It is generally a good idea to get to know your date's parents a bit if possible and to try to make a decent impression.
  • Important - if you say you are going to call your date, call her. In addition, try not to be late to dates.

4 comments:

  1. Hi Kirhu! I just happened to stumble on your blog while looking for homa things and benefits. Such gr8 info! Thank you so much. You also have very interesting other articles like about dates and being a better person. I think you've done a gr8 job and i hope you continue to give more gr8 info on your blog. By the way, did you take that picture of yours at Kota Tinggi Malaysia? Are you from Malaysia? Which part?

    Anyways, gr8 job! All the best in your life.Kalimma ki Jai! From Ishwarie (ishanandita@hotmail.com) Sorree i hav no facebook or blog. But i would love to start one to compliment yours. :) tc. god bless.

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  2. So sweet of u dear Ishwarie...well...go a head and continue ur best opportunity to help others as i helped you...all the best yar...kirhmuru@yahoo.com, incase you got any doubts...post it in my blog so i could reply you through my blog, so others which has same problem could get the same answer and benefits...thank you and pls continue to support me...Jai Kaalee!!!

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  3. Which picture Iswarie? Nop...I have never gone to kota tinggi before...ahahahaha

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